That is my favorite scene in The Hobbit. Probably because Bilbo reminds me of me. He strongly wants to go on a grand adventure and yet really doesn’t know how to leave his beloved routine.
I love my comfort zone. But who doesn’t, right?! One’s comfort zone can be very different depending on who you are and what your hobbies are. Mine is always to have a set schedule to my day. I am a very routined individual who really doesn’t mind doing the same exact thing over and over again, every day. I also enjoy very routined leisure time. I can also easily eat the exact same thing every day.
I love socializing, but I’m perfectly content ‘people watching’ at the mall. It takes a lot for me to get up enough energy to go to a party or event, but I’m always very grateful that I did go. You’re probably reading this right now thinking how utterly boring and unadventurous my goals are. Well, you may be right, but there it is….my comfort zone. I was happy and boring.
And then my life changed….
It was a beautiful Sunday afternoon when I met my charming husband.
Let me tell you a smidgen about this man I married.
He LOVES going outside his comfort zone! The man thrives on things that scare him to death! He’ll bungee jump; sleep on park benches in Europe (just because he wants to see what it’s like); he’ll eat really weird foods; go into haunted caves, and so many other random things. He even proposed to me in a Cemetery… Just cuz it was different. 😉
I think that’s one of the reasons I found him so attractive.
He was always challenging himself and doing things that terrified him. I found it both intriguing and crazy. I never used to do the things that he enjoys doing….I only watched that sort of thing on Netflix and if that was too intense, I skipped the whole scene altogether.
But, as the old saying goes, “Opposites Attract”, so when my adventurous ‘better half’ wrote to me for the first time, I decided to respond…. And that’s when, like Bilbo, I decided to go on an adventure.
I did need to sit down and seriously analyze what the benefits of going outside my comfort zone actually were.
It was a vigorous, internal debate with myself…. As it turned out, my logical, sanguine side won out in the end. I came to realize all the amazing things that happen when you make yourself a little uncomfortable.
Think of the wonderful friendships that have started because one person took the initiative to say “hello!”; think of the businesses that have begun because someone was brave enough to persevere and challenge himself; Imagine the lives that are saved when that one person decided to step outside herself and help someone. The list goes on and on! The people we admire most are always thinking outside the box and working toward something greater…. But they won’t see progress unless they inch (or jump) outside of their comfort zone.
What is that line in We Bought a Zoo?
“You know, sometimes all you need is 20 seconds of insane courage…just literally 20 seconds of embarrassing bravery and I promise you, something great will come of it”
It was that 20 seconds of insane courage that my husband used when he asked me out for the first time….and I thank God every day that he did! He is the best thing in my life and if he didn’t muster up that courage to ask me out, we wouldn’t be together and we wouldn’t have our three beautiful children.
Now, before you get the wrong impression, I’m not suggesting that one’s comfort zone is a bad thing. Not at all! It’s a very good thing. It’s our safe place. It’s where we recharge after a long, hard day. It’s where we calm down and focus on what’s good and holy.
But, I’m finding that the more often I challenge myself to push beyond it, the more I appreciate going back to it.
I’m actually really beginning to love the adventure!
I’m still scared to death to try new things; I still struggle when my routines and schedules get messed up; I still prefer to ‘people watch’ rather than start conversation, but the more I push myself (or the more my husband encourages me), the happier I am for doing it!
I’ve met some amazing people, done things I never thought I’d do, and have had wonderful things happen!
I’ve decided that THAT is how I want to live my life. After all, this blog is WAY outside my comfort zone, but I’ve decided to start it to encourage myself to try something new every week. And hopefully to inspire you to try something new and different too! So, no more procrastination! Let’s get started and have a new adventure! Let’s make “Outside our comfort zone” our new comfort zone. 😉
Please comment below and tell me how you’ve gone outside your comfort zone. I love comments and interaction!